Saturday, June 10, 2006
Can men and women be friends?
I have to ask, can men and women be friends without there being any suspicions of feelings of "LOVE"? I believe that they can. My best friend is male and no, we have NEVER slept together nor have we ever been in love with each other. We love each other very much as friends and have a great respect for each other. However, I have this other male friend who believes that my show of affection means that I am falling for him.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a very loyal, trusting, affectionate friend. I believe that if I treat someone well, they will in return treat me well. Ok, yes I am quite aware that there are some that will take advantage of this, but I've learned over the years how to spot those "users".
I believe that this male friend of mine is assuming that my affectionate nature and complete trust towards him is more than just feelings of friendship. I don't want to protest this much because then I feel as though I appear as if I am hiding something. But I am not hiding anything. While I do love him, it as just a friend. My heart belongs to another man. Whereas I may not have yet met this man, I know that there is someone else out there to give my heart to.
So I ask men out there: "Can men and women be friends without a man assuming that the woman is falling in love with him?"